It's time again for Monday Madness. I almost didn't do it... I've had allergy problems all weekend long and my brain isn't working quite right. But, then I read this at Kailani's and the original article here, so I thought maybe I would go ahead with it after all. Besides, I'd be interested to see what y'all have to say about all this.
1. Do you feel that children these days are disciplined enough? I think that it depends entirely on the family, however I have to say in too many cases I see situations where the child seems to be completely in charge of the household. I was a preschool teacher and it was amazing what you see in family dynamics when you work that closely with children and their parents.
2. What are your thoughts about the "time out chair?" It CAN be useful, depending on how it is used. One of its best uses is giving parents a time to cool down! :-) I have to tell you about this, though.. it made me smile. I had a student who was put in "time out" while out of the playground. One of his friends got up on the bench next to him. C. looked at his friend and said, "Go away. This is my time out!"
3. When YOU were a child, what form of discipline did your parents use most often? My grandmother was the one who took care of us while my mom was at work. And, she was of the old time variety. We had peach trees in our backyard and if we needed it, we had to go out and cut a switch and bring it back to her. Heaven help you if you brought back the wrong size switch (and believe me.. we knew what she wanted!) If we TRIED to get by with that (one either too small or too big to be effective), she would take us out to the tree, cut her own switch and then switch our legs back to the house. We only did that once. :-) Switching was effective. It stung but left no lasting damage. The important part of the lesson, though, was that we always knew WHY we were being switched. It wasn't arbitrary. There was always a cause and effect. We did this.. so we got switched. (Now, in the winter when we wore long pants... it was a paddle on our butts.)
4. Did your parents have to constantly remind you of the guidelines they set for you, or did they just have to LOOK at you as a "gentle" reminder? Oh... the look. That's all it took. There was none of this "I'm telling you for the last time..." stuff. The first time WAS the last time!
5. What are your thoughts about screaming kids in public places? First, it's not the kids' fault. The parents are to blame for not being prepared or putting the child in a situation they can't handle. If a child is overtired or overstimulated, they are going to act out. Small children do not have the internal discipline or skills to handle things like that. If parents want to take their children out to dinner in a restauarant, they should do it early enough that the kids aren't overtired. Either than, or make sure they get a nap beforehand. Either way, if a child starts screaming in a public place, they should be removed. That's only common courtesy for the rest of the public.
6. What do you feel is the BIGGEST mistake parents make when it comes to disciplining children? Inconsistency... first and foremost. What is a child to do when they do something on Monday and the parents are fine with it, maybe even thing it's funny... but they do the same thing on Wednesday and they are yelled out or punished for it. That's not fair, because then the kids don't know what is correct behavior. Not when "correct behavior" is dependant upon the whim of the parent.
If you want to play along, let me know and also leave a comment at Monday Madness
Have a happy Monday.